I'm at the age where I know more people in the obituaries than in the birth announcements. And it makes me sad.
I had a very close relationship with my grandma. She passed away last May. When I was young I remember her reading the paper from back to front. She joked she wanted to make sure she wasn't in the obits. As she got older she stopped reading the in memorium and obituaries because she knew too many people. I understand that now. I didn't as a teen.
Over the weekend I read the funeral notices for a former boyfriend's father and a neighbour from the street where I grew up. The father was 65 and had cancer off and on for 20+ years. It took my breath away when I saw his picture. His death renewed the ache in my own heart from the loss of my father-in-law and grandma. He was even in my dream last night. I saw him in a department store. His wife was farther in the background, sorta hazy.
I approached him and said "I'm sorry, I just heard about your passing."
He gave me one of his wonderful smiles and replied "yes". He lowered his eyes.
I asked "was it peaceful? You didn't suffer?"
"No" he replied, "it was very peaceful. I didn't suffer."
I felt him grow warmer, almost glow brighter. And I woke up.
I hope that the family knows he is at peace. Mr. L, rest in peace.
My old neighbour was a wonderful young lady of 98. I hadn't seen her in 8 or 9 years, and frankly I didn't realize that she was even alive any longer. She lived across the street until I was in my teens. She babysat me from time to time. She was an avid gardener. I remember a friend and I sitting on the wall by the garden opening the buds of the poppies she grew to see what colour they were going to be and making the snap-dragons talk. Amy, rest in peace.
To top it all off, this week marks 3 years since my dear high school friend's mom and best friends untimely passing in a car crash. S was also in the car and was severely injured. She spent 2 weeks in a coma, broken wrists, ribs and internal injuries. She is an amazing woman who is working to overcome a huge tragedy. I'm proud to call her my friend. But it still saddens me to see how much S hurts when February comes around each year. K and C, rest in peace.
I'm pensive and sad over the losses this week. But I'm very grateful to have my health, husband, family and friends. After all, I'm still shiny side up.
And I still read the paper back to front, for now.